Recently I was chatting with a friend online and I was explaining to him that I was getting back into blogging but am finding it a little hard because I have so many things that I want to write about that I don’t know what to write about. So I asked him what he thought would be a good topic to start with and he suggested ’what black women want from a man’. Now I thought to myself, ‘hmmm but I’ve covered something like this in a previous blog, not in detail but definitely a similar topic’; nevertheless, I’ve decided that it is definitely a topic worth covering again and possibly elaborating on. So by the request of bx4life2002 I’m bringing to you MY opinion of what a woman wants from a man black or otherwise; however, I’ve decided to eliminate the black aspect and just cover women period because I’m sure most of us want similar things regardless of race/ethnicity.
DISCLAIMER: PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT THE VIEWS/OPINIONS STATED IN THIS BLOG ARE MINE AND MINE ALONE BASED ON PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AND STORIES HEARD FROM THOSE I’VE CROSSED PATHS WITH, BE IT FRIENDS OR ASSOCIATES. THEY IN NO WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM ARE TO BE TAKEN AS ”A WHAT WOMEN WANT” BIBLE.
First and foremost I’m going to say that this is a hard yet somehow very easy topic to blog about. I say this because every woman is different so every woman’s wants/needs/desires vary with a few basic exceptions. Yet on the same token it is fairly easy because it is one that can be summed up in 5 sentences or less. That sentence is coming soon, lol, be patient. When I wrote about this topic the first time it received alot of gripes from men commenting on “women” they’ve dated. I can’t express clearly enough THE TITLE OF THE BLOG, “What WOMEN Want”. There are females all over the place but WOMEN are to often, it seems, a rare being. Now for those sentences: women want a MAN! In every sense of the word that is all a woman wants/needs. The question I always get in response is what is a man. If you are a man, a real man, you know what it is and there is no need for explanations beyond that sentence.
With all that being said, for those men that don’t know they are men or those boys that think they are men but really aren’t,I will talk a little about what a man is. A man takes care of home ALWAYS, regardless of what he does out in the street, because home is his 1st priority. A man is a provider, a lover, a confidant, and a protector all rolled in one. He wears the pants and he wears them proudly yet he has no problem lending them to his woman because he is secure in his manhood. A man takes care of his children no questions asked and will take care of yours if the situation calls for it. A man loves his woman unconditionally and expresses that love anytime, anywhere, and in front of anyone. A man isn’t afraid to cry, show emotion, or express his desire for love. He doesn’t shy away from affection and he knows that communication and compromise are the name of the game and end all and be all in any relationship. A man is secure with himself enough to understand that sometimes women are the breadwinner in a family but it doesn’t diminish his manhood nor his place as King of the Castle. A man has no problem being “domestic”, he will just as gladly get the kids ready for school, cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner, or clean the house as he would go to work for 10 hours a day. I think I’ve said enough about what a man is I’m sure people have other things to add but this is just a blog people lol and I still have to cover what women want from these men.
Now for the main course. Women want a man who is a companion in every sense of the word, not just someone who she is in a relationship with but someone who is her best friend, someone she can talk to about any and everything, if she wanted to. Someone that she can rely on with no doubt in her mind at any hour of the night for any reason under the sun whether it’s just to comfort her after a hard day or to pick her up because her car broke down in wesbubbafudge. We as women, even independent women, want to know that at any time necessary we can let all guards down and rely solely on our man to be strong for us. We want someone who will listen when we talk and not always tune us out. He will not only listen to our goals and dreams but will support them and push us toward them. We want a man who knows/learns when to just let us be or when to push the subject. We want a man who understands that it’s the little things that count. And the last thing I’m going to say but definitely not the least is we want a man that can blow our minds in the bedroom or the kitchen or on the beach or the highway, where ever your mind and hormones take you, lol.
Well men I think between my opinion of what a man is and what women want I’ve pretty much covered not all but a lot of the basic things that we look for. Anything else, as I stayed above, is subject to the woman you’re dating. Women if I’ve left anything out please leave a comment. Men as well, I would like to hear your feedback.
Until next time friends, family, strangers, tweeple,…etc. I hope you enjoy and I hope you join me for my next blog titled “Dads Are Parents Too, Where’s Their Justice?”
