Interracial Dating
Tonight was a very long night for me. I got into an argument w/ my grandmother, well not an argument more like a disagreement, b.c she told me that I am ashamed of being Black. Black as in the “race” and black is in my skin complexion. She feels this way b.c I date white guys and light skin black guys but I don’t necessarily date dark skin black guys. She thinks I’m prejudice and that I date them b.c I am ashamed of my own complexion. I guess in so many words she is saying that I want to be them. What do you think? Do you think people that date outside there race are people that are ashamed of their own skin and want to be something that they’re not?
I don’t date dark skin guys b.c I’m not attracted to them. I date white guys b.c I’m attracted to them. Things like this put you in awkward situations. I know that she doesn’t approve of interracial dating but I’m not going to stop dating who I’m attracted to to make her happy. I love my grandmother dearly but she needs to realize that we are not back in the 40s anymore, things change, people change, races change, hell and we create new ones. There are so many interracial couples out here now that sooner or later we are all going to be seriously mixed up, as if we aren’t already. I don’t know how many people can say they are a pure breed but I know I damn sure can’t.
I love my race, despite it’s down falls and I love my complexion, contrary to what she may think. I don’t ever want to be light skin or white for that matter. I like white men that like BLACK women not OREOS. Any guy, regardless of his race, has to love me for me and all that comes with me.
I’m sorry grandma but I can’t make you happy b.c at the end of the day I have to make my decisions for me, I am the only person that has to live with them. If I get hurt dating another race, as was implied, I am the only person that has to deal with that. If anybody decides to stop speaking to me b.c I am with someone that makes me happy, despite what color they are, then I don’t need you b.c my happiness is not in your best interest but it’s in mine. I guess I’ll see you when you come around.
I can respect someone who doesn’t date outside their race and I can respect someone who doesn’t approve of dating outside your race but I can’t respect someone who looks down on you b.c skin color isn’t a barrier to you. People we have to grow up, and I know for people my grandmother’s age it might be hard, but don’t knock the younger generations for trying to tear down the walls that your generation and those before you built. We are a freer spirit, things that weren’t acceptable then we embrace now. Please don’t knock us for being who we are and who we thought you raised us to be, unbiased, anti-racist, anti-segregationist, anti-bigots, and equal opportunist (even if society isn’t).
This is one of my favorite movies but it is not always a good example b.c Sanaa Lathan overexaggerated in some situations. Still it shows me that there is hope for interracial couples eventhough it is only a movie.
