Hypothetically~Would You Wanna Know
Hypothetically of course
Are there some things better left unsaid
Or would you wanna know instead
Hypothetically of course
Are there some wars not worth fighting
Some tears not worth crying
Hypothetically of course
What if this happened to you
what would you want me to do
- Lyfe Jennings, Hypothetically
This is the chorus to Lyfe Jennings song “Hypothetically.” Now John and I were discussing this the other day. For those of you that don’t know the song the background on it is this: a boyfriend is asking his girlfriend hypothetically what if he cheated on her, would she want to know or would she rather leave the past behind them, because after all it IS the past. She then counterresponds with, ” Well what if I told you that I had a confession? What if I said 4 years ago when we were arguing he came to comfort me and I wound up pregnant and I can’t be sure just if the baby’s yours.” In turn asking him would he want to know or could she just suppress it because technically he’s the baby’s daddy anyway. That is the basic run down of the song as for as what the situation was between them.
My question to you is, “Would YOU want to know and would, should, or could it even matter?”
Me, I feel like this> Yes, maybe she was wrong and if the baby isn’t his then granted he should know, JUST IN CASE because ish happens. You don’t want it coming out 10 years down the line, God forbid something happens to the child and he/she needs an organ or blood from the parent, that he isn’t the father. But at the same time, I don’t think that should stop him from being a father to the, to HIS, child especially after four years. If you are in a good situation why should something as little as DNA stop you from loving and being with the only family you know? Then I guess that would bring us to the question, “Is Love Enough?” Which is definitely a different topic for a different day.
We, as women, are faced with this situation more often then we should be: men go out and have affairs all the time and do stupid things, such as not putting a hat on, and then WE are faced with the decision to stay or go. For us the process of getting over a child outside of our “monogamous” relationship is a lot easier then it is for a man. Hence the situation of the song. And just so you know it was to much for him to handle and he left.
That brings me to the questions, and this is for the men and the women to respond to. Why is it okay for you to go out and have affairs and babies out side of the monogamous agreement but when we do it all hell has to break loose, then on top of that you usually leave? And ladies why do we let them put us in that situation and then we make it easy for them by staying?
To the ladies that have been in this situation and decided to stay, I take my hat off to you. YOU ARE A HELL OF A WOMAN, especially if he really isn’t worth the heartache anyway. I don’t know what I would do if I was faced with that situation because it is definitely one that depends on the circumstances surrounding it. However, I can say this, if he was worth it and he made me happy then yes I think I might try to work it out. With that I must bid you au revoir, until next time.
A NOTE TO THE FELLAS: What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If you can dish it learn how to take it and if you can’t I advise you to wise up and strap up.
