Ladylovely’s Haven of Herlam

Public displays of affection: to be or not to be, to watch or not to watch, THAT is the question!

If you are someone, like myself, who is in the I’m Not Affection “clique” then the answer to that question is NOT. However, you may ride the fence, eventhough I am always told that you can’t, and decide that it’s not your thing but what the hell “I’ll watch, I don’t mind a ‘lil amateur porn.”

It seems that in a day and age where the majority of people meet their “soul mates” in untraditional places: such as on dating websites, Myspace, chat rooms…etc., that public displays of affection would take a backseat to casual conversation. This, however, has not happened. More and more people are groping, fondling, slobbing down, and doing everything under the sun, but having sex outside, to their significant other (or a stranger for that matter lol). Being from the city, I see a lot of this on the subways, at the bars, or just standing at the light. My question is what makes you think that it’s okay to do that and why do you think the rest of the world wants to see it?

I have never been an affectionate person and probably never will be, especially not for the whole world to see. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with a subtle gesture of affection to the object of your affections but why would you want to show everybody passing by or standing around what being with you is like? Like a good friend always tells me, “Everything in moderation.”

I’ve also noticed high school aged kids getting in on the action, hell they might be MOST of the action, and this goes for the gay and straight ones. They are on the subways groping and tonguing each other down like they are in private bedrooms with the windows painted black. I wonder what their parents would say if they seen the way their kids behave in public. I mean just because you’re f*cking doesn’t mean you have to let EVERYBODY KNOW you’re f*cking. And if you’re not why would you want to give out the impression that you are? Old adage time: There is a TIME and a PLACE for everything? The subway cart, bar, nor corner IS one of them.NOTE: If you don’t take anything else away from today’s blog posting LEARN, LIVE, and LOVE by that phrase.

So to my readers I guess that leaves these questions for you to respond to: How much is to much for you? When, where, and what is appropriate? And does watching someone “neck” while you’re trying to read your book, drink your coffee, or watch a movie gross you out?